Dating apps aren't as effective as you think.
Do you get the feeling that almost everyone you know found their partner online? That perception may not match reality, as statistics reveal a different situation.
Currently, it seems that many people have found their partners through dating apps, but this sentiment does not reflect the reality of the statistics. A YouGov study on how Britons meet their partners, published in September 2024, reveals that only 8% met on a dating platform. This figure is lower than those who met through friends (16%), at work (14%), or in casual encounters (12%). Additionally, those who met at universities or through hobbies make up only 5% and 4%, respectively. When considering all individuals who met their partners online, the figure rises to 12%, but it remains a non-significant percentage.
In a similar vein, the Pew Research Center conducted research in 2023 with 6,034 Americans, finding that only one in ten adults in serious relationships met their partner through a dating site or app, despite the fact that 30% have tried using them at some point.
Why does it seem that everyone has found their partners on apps? One possible explanation is that, being a new trend, their growth from 0% to 8% since their emergence is striking. Moreover, cases of couples successfully formed through these apps may be more memorable, feeding the perception that it is the only path to love.
For many, dating apps have been a valuable tool; indeed, some have found meaningful relationships or marriages. However, the reality also includes frustrations, such as ghosting and the difficulty of finding genuine people among many unsatisfactory interactions.
Relationship experts have described these platforms as a "box of surprises," where experiences vary greatly depending on users' expectations. Those seeking casual encounters may find a wealth of opportunities, while those longing for a deeper relationship often face frustrations that can impact their self-esteem and perception of love.
"Dating fatigue" can lead people to feel destined for loneliness, decreasing their willingness to socialize both on apps and in real life. To combat this negative effect, it is suggested to view the apps as just another tool in the partner-searching process, encouraging individuals to go out and connect in social situations without the pressure of expectations.
Experts recommend maintaining an open mindset and cultivating confidence to facilitate connection with others, reminding that genuine love takes time, patience, and occasionally, a bit of luck.
